Below are issues that boys and young men may face. To read a section, simply click on the links below to be taken straight to the section.
Emotional health is about the way we think and feel, and the ability to cope with difficult things in life. When we think about poor emotional health we usually think it only happens to girls but this isn't true, it happens to boys and young men too! If something happens and we feel low emotionally, getting back on track can be difficult.
Good emotional health is important for young people as they have to make choices about studying, careers and other areas of their lives. At the same time, young people are also developing greater independence and responsibilities, and experiencing changes in the way they think and feel. Many young people have strong coping strategies and are generally resilient to these challenges, but some will need additional help to develop resilience and stay emotionally health.
For information about emotional health click here
Sex can be an embarrassing subject for anyone; but it shouldn't be. If your ready to have sex then you should be able to talk about it. Looking after your sexual health is down to you.
Whenever you have unprotected sex, there's a risk of your partner becoming pregnant or catching an STI (sexually transmitted infection). So it's important to look after your sexual health.
It's easy to get free contraception, either from your doctor or from sexual health services. These are places that give advice on sex, pregnancy, abortion and STIs and most of these services are free.
Remember, you should only have sex with someone if you feel ready. Don't let anyone pressure you to do something you don't want to.
Contraception can stop you getting pregnant or getting an STI. It can be embarrassing to talk about contraception, but it's really important to talk through your options. There are lots of places you can get contraception advice and contraceptives for free.
To keep you safe we need to talk condoms...
Male condoms are the most common type of condoms and are usually made of latex, a very thin type of rubber. Condoms stretch to fit over a penis and have to be put on when the penis is erect (stiff) to make sure it doesn't slip off or split during sex. A condom stops sperm from entering the vagina, mouth or anus (bottom).
You can also get female condoms. These work by fitting loosely inside the vagina and stopping sperm entering the womb.
3 things to know about condoms:
Are you worried that someone is contacting you and your friends? Grooming happens to boys and young men too!
Grooming is when someone convinces you or your family or carer that they are a safe and trustworthy person so they can sexually exploit you. This can happen to anyone.
Young people can be groomed online or face-to-face, by a stranger or by someone they know. Online groomers sometimes hide their identity and pretend to be the same age as you, so you fall into a false sense of security.
A groomer can make you feel like they are the only person who will listen to you, pay you compliments, show interest in you and make you feel grown up. They may do this by offering you a friendship, a relationship or by becoming your boyfriend or girlfriend. They may attempt to groom your parents or carer too, by becoming their friends as well.
A person who grooms may spend a long time getting to know all the finer details about you, for example,
Here are some warning signs that someone may be grooming you:
If you are a young male, you may find it difficult to accept you have been or are being groomed. You may feel embarrassed, ashamed, guilty, or scared; you don’t need to be any of these things! Remember you have done nothing wrong and there is lots of support available for you. Groomers often target a number of young people at the same time. There are other boys and young men experiencing similar things as you. If you think you may have been groomed or think you know someone who has been groomed, speak to someone you can trust. This may be a relative, friend, teacher, teaching assistant,Youth Worker, Youth Offending worker, Social Worker or a Volunteer.
Boys and young men are often targetted through social media platforms. Make sure that;
As uncomfortable as it may be, a conversation about consent is really important if you're going to initiate sexual activity. It's important to make sure you're BOTH on the same page and you are BOTH ready. Remember if you're not ready to talk about consent then you're probably not ready to have sex. It's about respecting each other, Simples!
We need to talk about consent because sexual violence affects young people more than any other age groups. It’s a scary statistic and no one wants to be victim of sexual violence – or an aggressor. Most assaults don’t happen the way you may think, involving some deranged stranger. In most cases the victim and the perpetrator know each other. Assault is more than just extreme force; it isn’t always rape. Assault can include any unwanted sexual touching.
Assault is more than just extreme force and it isn’t always rape. Assault can include any unwanted sexual touching. Most young people think consent is complicated. It really doesn't have to be! Lets think cats.... “If the cat doesn’t want you to pet it, you don’t pet it. This is the same as sexual activity if your partner doesn't want it; don't do it".
Young people take part in all forms of gambling. The most common types for young people between 11 and 16 are the lottery, scratchcards and slot machines, and making bets or playing cards with friends, with either cash or other items at stake.
Anyone, of any age, can experience problems with controlling their gambling behaviour. For young people, the impact of the problem may seem trivial – there is no job, mortgage or family to lose. However, gambling problems are experienced by around 2% of people aged 11 to 15, which equates to around 60,000 young people in Britain. Problem gambling is associated with educational problems such as low attendance and truancy and can lead to emotional, social and behavioural problems. Worryingly, those who begin their gambling careers earlier in life are more likely to be problem gamblers in adulthood.
Youth and Family Support, East Riding - eastriding.gov.uk
Help for Children and Young People 0800 1111 nspcc.or.uk
CEOP - Think you Know - thinkuknow.co.uk
Young People's Sexual Health in Hull and the East Riding - wearecornerhouse.org
MESMAC- The BLAST project just for boys - mesmac.co.uk
Local Campaign around Child Sexual Exploitation - notinourcommunity.org
National Gambling Helpline on 0808 8020 133.